I'm varying from the schedule just a little bit. This week I will review chapters 6 and 7. Next week I will review chapters 8 and 9.
Chapter 6 is titled "Following the Wonderful Counselor" and focused on changing at the level of the heart, as demonstrated by the following paragraph (pg 109)
One of the things you will quickly discover is that when most people seek change, they seldom have the heart in view. They want change in their circumstances, change in the other person, or change in their emotions. They think that if "things" would change they would be better off. But when the focus is put only on the outward circumstances, the solutions are seldom more than temporary and superficial. Certainly, it is true that elements in a situation often need to change, but you cannot stop there. Your goal must be to lead your friend to a deeper, fuller view of change. Your goal is to help her to examine her heart and to see the importance of change at that level.
I could relate to this, as I often see myself desiring to see my circumstances change over the desire to see my heart change.
Chapter 7 is titled "Building Relationships by Entering Their World". This chapter focused on relationships. Here's a few points concerning relationships covered in this chapter:
- God has a higher goal for our relationships than our personal happiness.
- He wants our relationships to be the context for the change he works in and through us.
- We need to build relationships that encourage this work of change.
- God's redemptive activity always takes place within relationships.
- God's first step in changing us is to draw us into relationship with him.
- Our relationships are essential to the work God is completing in us and in others.
The author went on to explain how to really listen to another person within a relationship. He gave very practical tips on how to be listening in a relationship and how to ask meaningful questions that drive at the heart of the matter.